We are constantly told about many types of “truths” to live by and strive towards.
We are told how we should be as “true” partners, daughters, sisters, professionals, and overall humans. We are told “truths” about how our bodies should look like, as well as our spaces, libraries, music playlists, workouts, diets, and even self care routines!
Sometimes even when I’m journaling, creating text that only I will see, I’m still finding myself working towards some kind of “truth”. Should I be bullet journaling? Should I write all my entries in black ink? Is this meaningful to journal about? Will my future children find this diary? What will they think? HA! I’m laughing at myself right now. Well, you get the point.
So what’s the issue with this?
We made all of this up. Most of these “truths” are arbitrary human-made rules that got passed down from generation to generation. Yet, we get so down on ourselves for not meeting all these expectations and standards. Some of us lose sleep, lose motivation, lose the ability to breath with ease, and lose our self-love, when we feel we can’t achieve these “ideal” ways of being.
But think about it. For every “true” statement, you will find a conflicting “true” statement somewhere. Here are some examples:
· “You should quit your job to pursue your passions fearlessly because that’s brave” versus “ You should start with a side hustle because it’s irresponsible not to do so”.
· “Coconut oil is magic” versus “Coconut oil will kill you”
· “ Detoxing is a myth” versus “Detoxing is necessary”
· “Treat yo self” versus “Are you planning for retirement?”
· “Losing weight is cool” versus “gaining weight is cool” versus “ Can we stop commenting on each others’ bodies already?”
· “A diva is the female version of a hustler ” versus “ How dare you not take an hour long bath today?!”
The good news is, in a world where many truths are true, you get to choose what is true for you.
You get to define what is valuable. You get to define spirituality. You define family. You set your own standards about relationships. You say what gender and sexuality look like. You get to define what your goals should be. You get to question other’s expectations, and decide if they fit for you. You get to choose who is part of your life. You get to choose how your time is spent. You get to create the life that you want.
And does this not just jazz you up?!
Becoming an active author of your own life is exciting yet challenging. Through this blog you will learn some tools to begin defining the “truths” you want to live by.
